Some of the relationship gurus or as they call themselves- recommend using mind games and tricks to get your ex-girlfriend back, while others say that playing mind games is not effective, and this is really making the normal person even more confused. In this article I will reveal the truth about mind games and how effective they are when it comes to getting your ex-girlfriend back.
How Do Mind Games Work?
The goal of using mind games is to get someone to do what you want by confusing him and playing games and ploys on him. Mind games can really work, and sometimes they are really effective, but on the short term.
Another important thing that really worth mentioning is that: even though mind games are sometimes good, they are really risky. Just imagine your woman reaction when she knows that you were tricking her. Actually women see stuff like that as complete disrespect, and you know what? They are completely right. You should also never forget that respect is the corner stone of any relationship. Violating this rule means one only thing. yes, the end of the relationship.
Can Mind Games Get Your Ex Back?
Right now, you may understand that mind games can work, however they are risky, as they are based on tricking the other person, which may hurt their egos.
When it comes to get your ex-girlfriend back, mind games may work but only on the short term, which means that you may get her back but mind games will not keep her, and even if it will not be for a long time, simply because you cannot trick her for a whole life. Sooner or later, she will discover it and will leave you.
Mind Games And Reverse Psychology
Reverse psychology: is trying to convince someone to do something you want by telling them to do the complete opposite thing. It is a form of motivation by manipulating the other person ego defense mechanism.
For example: you want your little sister to do her homework so you may say something like “I bet you cannot finish your homework tonight” and so she will make her best to prove you wrong and get her homework done. This also explains why we appreciate what we cannot have. Everyone is trying to protect his/her ego and by trying to persuade them or tell them what to do, you are triggering their ego protectors, and so they will completely do the opposite thing.
Mind games: are nothing more than another form of reverse psychology, however the only difference is that mind games may involve some kind of lying, not being yourself or being dishonest. Ok let me explain with an example..
Suppose that your girl has dumped you, and then you started no contact to get her back. This is actually a form of reverse psychology not a mind game, because you are trying to get her back through cutting all contacts and at the same time you are supposed to do the no contact because she is no longer interested and you appear as if you give up on her then you go through no contact.
On the other hand, let’s suppose that you are the one who dumped her, and after a while you realized that you want her back. In such a case, if for example you used another girl to make her jealous then this is a mind game not a normal reverse psychology. This is because you do not really have another girl you are just faking it and more importantly you are not really supposed to be playing with her again especially it is not the first time. You got it?
So there is actually a difference between reverse psychology in its normal form and reverse psychology in its worst forms which is the form of mind games.
So when should you use mind games and reverse psychology to get her back?
While I do not like mind games, sometimes they are actually the only card left in your hands, so you have to use them. The following situations are the only ones that you are allowed to use mind games, otherwise please do not!
- When she has more power than you.
- When she is the one who ended the relationship and dumped you, and not the opposite.
- When she is already playing mind games on you. For example, when she has another guy already in her life and you are tricking her as a kind of the mirroring technique by trying to make her jealous as well i.e. she is the one who started playing mind games and you are just mirroring her.
You may also want to check my ultimate guide on how to get your ex girlfriend back .
Matt Huston created the ex2 system and helped many guys get their ex girlfriends back. Not only Matt will tell you about killer tactics and techniques to get her back, but also he gives a complete guide named “Train your girlfriend” as a bonus to help you keep her after you get her back. You can read a complete review of the ex2 system here or you can listen to Matt’s free audio presentation here. ( Hint: the video may take some time to start so wait about 5 to 10 seconds for the video to load because there are too many people trying to access the server and watch that video).
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