This is the most definitive guide on how to get your ex girlfriend back and get her to forgive you if you cheated on her, however i have to make some assumptions before even proceeding a bit.
I am going to assume that you have cheated on your wife or girlfriend and she reacted by dumping you.
I also will assume that you regret what you did and want her back because you really appreciate her.
I am going also to assume that you will not repeat it again in the future, as this one is very important.
I have to mention all these assumptions because the information you are about to read is uncommon knowledge! It is really powerful, dangerous and manipulative, and I am not responsible if you misused this information or used it to fool your ex.
If you plan to cheat on her again and use my advice to fool her, then even if you succeeded to fool her, she will know someday and then you will be the loser at the end. You have been warned!
Before telling you how to win her back after cheating on her, I will give you some brief information about the psychology of the cheated-on partner, to help you understand your woman.
The psychology of the cheated-on partner
When it comes to cheating, men are different than women. They perceive cheating as a stab to their manhood, they take it more personal.
However, on the other hand, a woman perceives cheating as a stab to the relationship itself, rather than the woman herself.
That said, the good news is that it is easier for men than women to get their ex-lovers back when they cheat. In other words, women are more likely to forgive than men and this is simply because:
- Women do not take it personal.
- You hurt the relationship, not her in the first place. Thus, showing a lot of dedication to the relationship can dramatically increase your chances for getting her back.
- In case of wives, they may forgive for the sake of the kids or sometimes because they have no source of income rather than their husbands.
Now, let’s dive into your woman’s mind to know how she thinks right now..
The way to get your girlfriend back after you lied or cheated on her
Psychologists tell us that your woman will go through three main stages that follow the Cheating, and they are:
- Roller-coaster stage: this is the stage where there are many emotional ups and downs at the same time. Conflicting feelings are also very popular at this stage. She may feel angry then blame herself for the cheating at the end of the day. Sometimes she is sad, sometimes depressed about the whole matter and sometimes she cannot stop thinking why this happened.
- Moratorium: After a while your woman will stop the negative thinking and start to analyze what happened while refusing any kind of either emotional connection or physical contact. She will also seek other people help and advice and she may start dating other guys.
- Trust building: This is the last stage and it is not necessary that it comes as it is only for those who want to continue and get back again together. Reaching this stage means that you have succeeded in getting your ex-girlfriend/wife back again.
Now, we have to find another alternative that suits this specific situation, so let’s see what we can do about it..
How to get your ex girlfriend back and get her to forgive you for cheating on her?
Here is the golden rule..
Getting her to forgive you is all about getting her guard or defense mechanism system down.
So let’s see how you can do it.
First of all, in order to get her to forgive you, you have to know that the earlier your action is, the better your chances are.
For example, check the above stages and identify where your woman is now. If she is still in the first stage which is the roller-coaster stage, it is very easy to interrupt her thoughts as I will tell you just right now.
However, if she is in the Moratorium stage, then it is more difficult to get her to listen to you, and maybe she is with another guy.
The following tips will help you get her back. You can apply any tip in any time or stage; however you will get the best results by applying the every tip in each particular time or stage as mentioned here.
As I mentioned above, you quick action can make or break your chances for winning her back.
Be sure to admit and to confirm that you are wrong many times.
This one is very clear and should be done regardless of the stage which your woman is in right now. When you admit you are wrong, you get her defensive mechanism down and make her even more confused which will lead to the next step.
Re frame yourself as a victim! (Very powerful)
Yes! You hear me right! By framing yourself as a victim you will get her defensive mechanism even more down, because she will start to blame herself or at least put some responsibility on her own shoulders. Blame it on her that you needed her, while she neglected you either sexually or emotionally and then tell her again how she is very important to you and how you always needed her. In fact it is the reason you cheated on her.
As you can see it is simple like this. You are the victim, you are weak, you love her so much and really need her, but she may did not notice your need for her and when she was not there for you, you unintentionally cheated on her. This tip is best used in the roller-coaster stage while she is still confused and it will be easier to get through her mind radar system and to get her to listen to you.
Stress on the fact that men cheat by lure of sex, and not because of emotions.
This is very important for her as it means that you may admire the other woman sexually but you do not have any emotions for her i.e. you do not love her. So , while you are wrong cheating on your woman, you tell her that she is the only love in your life.
Focus on the relationship and the relationship future more than her.
Remember what i told you earlier that women do not take it personal? They perceive cheating as a stab to the relationship itself. Thus by talking a lot about the great future, waiting for both of you and your relationship, and by showing some dedication and commitment, it will not be that difficult to get her back again.
Relatives and mutual friends.
Being in the moratorium stage, your woman will be ready to hear from the people she trusts.
All what you have to do is to identify those people and approach them before her, then tell them that you are regretful and you will not do it again. Then ask them to talk to your girl or wait for her to come, and then advise her to get back to you as you are regretful and will not do it again bla bla bla. The more people you approach to help you, the more you will get closer to getting her back into your arms again.
A final word about getting your girl back if you cheated on her.
After you get her back and getting her to forgive you, please do yourself and your woman a favor, be sincere and decide that you will never cheat on her or on any woman again. (of course what I mean by any woman is that in case you did not succeed to get her back and dated another women), otherwise, the above techniques will lose their effectiveness and credibility and so do you. You have been warned!
You may also want to check my ultimate guide on how to get your ex girlfriend back .
Matt Huston created the ex2 system and helped many guys get their ex girlfriends back. Not only Matt will tell you about killer tactics and techniques to get her back, but also he gives a complete guide named “Train your girlfriend” as a bonus to help you keep her after you get her back. You can read a complete review of the ex2 system here or you can listen to Matt’s free audio presentation here. ( Hint: the video may take some time to start so wait about 5 to 10 seconds for the video to load because there are too many people trying to access the server and watch that video).