Sometimes, we lose hope and give up while we still have some powerful cards in our hands. Today I am going to talk about one of the most powerful techniques that can dramatically increase your chances of getting her back.
Warning for bad guys
Before we start I have to tell you that you should not misuse those techniques or use them to fool someone. Those are manipulative techniques based on psychology, and you should only use them when you have good intentions, otherwise please don’t. In such a case, I am not responsible. Just remember that by fooling people you are just acquiring new enemies. You have been warned!
Warning for good guys
The only case, you can use the following advice is when you have been dumped by your woman, and it was not because you did something really wrong like cheating on her, so you can perfectly make use of those techniques by applying them in the no contact period.
Again the following advice are only for those who have been dumped for almost no real reason, using the following advice in any other case will be counterproductive and will make your situation even worse.
I am not the evil guy or a bad guy. I just want to help you get her back, so both of you SHOULD NOT be harmed at anyway. Okay?!
How to get her back using the power of facebook?!
Another important thing before we start
This article contain many psychological tricks and mind games. Your girl is really smart even more than you think, because women are natural mind games players. Do not underestimate them. So the key to succeed is to play like you are really serious.
When you start playing mind games, there is no space for being hesitant. You have to show that you are serious and not playing.
In fact, in the first, she will think that you are playing mind games, however by the time and with you being serious, she will start to doubt her guessing about you. And at the end she will take the lure and believe it.
VERY IMPORTANT: IF YOU BELIEVE YOU CANNOT GET IT DONE OR JUST NOT SURE, THEN I RECOMMEND THAT YOU TAKE MORE TIME OR EVEN GIVE UP ON THE WHOLE IDEA AND TRY ANYTHING ELSE. THIS IS VERY VERY IMPORTANT. YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED!!
SO Ready?! Let’s get to work..
Should you remain friends with your ex-girlfriend/wife on facebook?
Well, It depends.
- If you do not care about her anymore, So it doesn’t make a difference. This is when you do not consider her as a lover or even a friend. She is just some one you know or someone you meet one day.
- If you no longer want her in your life, then you should not be friends with her. This is when you are the one who ended the relationship and you do not even consider her as a friend. Another case is that some women are really dangerous after breakups. They may consider seeking revenge. In such a case, not only you should unfriend her, but also you may consider blocking her.
- In case you want her back, you must stay friends with her on facebook. Again it’s a must, and here’s why..
If you are no longer friends on facebook, you can still use this advice, but make sure to change your privacy to “Public”
Why you should stay friends with your ex on facebook when you want her back?
- By unfriending her, you appear as immature which is not really good for a man.
- By unfriending her, you lose a great way and sometimes it is the only way, to affect her and reprogram her subconscious mind to make her want to get back together with you. When you still friends with her, you give her the chance to visit your profile, and see your updates, photos, and comments by other girls
- By unfriending her, you are sending her a message which says that you feel really bad because of the breakup and that the breakup is really a big deal for you. You simply, reassuring her feelings that she has a higher value than you, that you are a miserable guy who really deserves being dumped, and that she made the right decision when she dumped you.
- While you are in no contact, you cannot contact your ex. However, by keeping her on your friends list, you can indirectly contact her by sending her indirect messages like showing her your status, happy new photos as I am going to tell you right now.
How do i get my girlfriend / wife back using facebook?
Our goal is:
- To shake her own belief that the breakup was the right decision.
- To confuse her to the extent that she wants to hack your account to know what is going behind.
- To make her jealous.
- To make her experience the pain of losing you and the emotions you was providing her with.
- And all of this should not make her give up on you, consider you a jerk, or lose hope in getting back together with you.
So, let’s get to work..
Step1: Give Her Gifts Back To Her
If you have not asked her yet for the gifts you gave to her when you where together, then i strongly recommend that you do it.
You will need them later as you will know right now, and make sure you give her the gifts she gave to you as well.
Do not skip this step because you are not courageous enough to do it or you just think that it is too risky. Please get rid of this scared kid inside you. Be risky because by risking nothing you will get nothing. Period.
Listen! She has broken up with you without any kind of hesitation, and she is just a girl.
Man up man! Wake up!
Is it a game?! Or is she kidding?! Of course, NO.
So take it more serious and ask for your gifts and give her hers, and let her know that it is not a game and you no longer want her or even her Souvenirs. This will not make her hate you. In fact, it will make her respect you and see you as a real man. Don’t you want that or what?!
If she told you that she got rid of your gifts, then tell her (in a very quiet and cool attitude, but serious as well) that she should not have done that because those gifts are no longer belongs to her, then tell her that you will get rid of her gifts as well.
You do not have to take your gifts yourself. Ask a friend to meet her to take your gifts and give her hers. It is better and better when the friend is female not male. By not going yourself, she will exclude the idea that you are just asking for your gifts as an excuse to meet her or to see her.
Step2: Secure facebook account.
Change your password even if you did not tell her about. Of course do not use a password that she can guess. Make a strong password and be prepared because she will try to hack your account.
What are the things you want her to learn about? What are the things you want to hide?
- Make sure she cannot see your timeline recent activities, and your friends list. Those two things are very important to hide, because this is the information she will want to know.
- Make sure she can see your photos, albums, videos, and of course your status updates.
And of course this does not apply in case you are no longer friends on facebook, as you will need to change your privacy to public. You have no other choices.
Step 3: Find 3 or more female friends to help you.
Those are the girls who will like your photos, comment on your status updates as I am going to tell you right now, and those are the girls you are going to take some pictures with if possible.
Sometimes you do not have female friends, so what should you do?
While it is really wrong not have even 3 female friends, and this may be part of your problem, however it is not our subject now. In such a case you have some choices like:
- Hiring them from fiver.com or fourer.com (it costs only 4 or 5$ to get a girl to post a video on your timeline ) or any other place. Just use your mind.
- As a part of improving your dating skills while in no contact, you will approach many women and make some female friends. Just add them on facebook, and you can also tell them the truth and ask for their help, but do not do that until you read the next part.
Female friends specifications
- She must be honest and a person that can be trusted. This point can make or break your chances of getting your ex back.
-Single.. or at least, your girlfriend can not see her marital status.
-Has a better social proof than your ex, or more beautiful than your ex.
Step 4: Increase your social proof by taking a lot of photos and videos.
The photos must say that you are happy and enjoying your life. Do not take a lot of photos with women. Just make a collection. Some photos in the gym.. others with your female friends, another collection with your male friends, and so on. The point is to make things appear natural. In general, mind games Should be natural in order to work. This is very important.
Another effective method is to ask the female friend to upload your own photos then tag you in those photos. This tells your ex-girlfriend that your female friend has the photos and she may probably the one who shoot the photo and a sexy comment on the photo will spice things more.
- Smile in the photos and make sure she sees your smile.
- Besides your female friends, take photos with people she hates or does not like, because she consider them as an enemy and by taking photos with them (and you are smiling) this will make her think that her enemies have defeated her by stealing you from her J funny part is that you are the catch now.
- Make sure she sees some of the gifts you gave to her with another girl. You got it? This why I told you to ask for your gifts. This goal of this point is the same of number 2, which is making her experience the feel of loss.
Hint: if she did not give you your gifts as I mentioned before, then use her gifts and give them to another male friend and let her see the photo.
Step 5: Sell her gifts or just offer them for sale.
Another great and killer method is to sell the gifts. You do not have to actually sell them if you want to keep them.
You can just offer them for sale in a website like “never liked it anyway” www.neverlikeditanyway.com, then make a facebook post with a link to the selling page in it. She will be surprised and this will make her drop her jaw. She may even cry. Do not hesitate. Be bold! This will work in both her favor and your favor in the future when you get back together.
Step 6: Sad status (Stimulate the pain of loss).
In order for things to appear natural, you have to make some sad statuses after a while and from time to time. Do I need to tell you that a female friend should comment?!
This is a must! And she should comment with something like “inbox”, “what’s wrong dear inbox” “???! what’s wrong again, inbox!” the word again here is very powerful, it means that you have talked to this female friend before about your problem, and that she became very close to you to the extent that you are telling her your secrets.
The goal from this step is to make things appear more natural, as I have mentioned before and another important thing is that your ex will feel like this female friend has taken or stolen her lovely toy which is you
Step7: Tag her in a photo
Now, if it is the time to end no contact. You can just taste the water by tagging her in a funny photo. Just make sure that you tag many other people with her, and see how she reacts. If she responded, then congratulations. If not, then you have to increase the pain dose a little bit.
To summarize the whole thing, i have created this video. However you are highly encouraged to read the full article.
- Do not use all the techniques in one time. For example do have some photos and check the result at number 7. If she does not respond then repeat the steps from 4 to 7 with something like selling her gifts as mentioned in number 5. And check at number 7 and so on. Do not throw all your cards one time. Not only will you have nothing to play with, but also she may give up or think of you as a jerk, according to how sensitive she is.
- Do not push without testing. Again you are not supposed to use all the techniques. Just use some of them then test and so on till you get the result.
- If you are not active on facebook, then do not become suddenly the most active one among your friends. Just make things appear natural and take things a bit by bit.
- What if she has already have another guy in her life or she started imitating you and does the same? Should you do the above?
This is a CLEAR proof that she has taken the lure. Every time escalate things a bit. Do not think that this may push her in the arms of the first caring guy she meets? No it does not work like this, and even if it happened, be sure that she is trying to make you jealous and you know what?! This is wonderful! She is still caring about you and you are on the right track to get her back.
You may also want to check my ultimate guide to get your ex girlfriend back .
Matt Huston created the ex2 system and helped many guys get their ex girlfriends back. Not only Matt will tell you about killer tactics and techniques to get her back, but also he gives a complete guide named “Train your girlfriend” as a bonus to help you keep her after you get her back. You can read a complete review of the ex2 system here or you can listen to Matt’s free audio presentation here. ( Hint: the video may take some time to start so wait about 5 to 10 seconds for the video to load because there are too many people trying to access the server and watch that video).